Subspace: The Natural High of BDSM

Describing subspace is a lot like describing a color or an orgasm: you can use as many flowery descriptors as you like, but none of them are really going to do a good job of capturing the feeling you’re trying to articulate unless the other person already knows about it firsthand. In its simplest form, subspace is the physical sensation often experienced during kinky sex.

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  1. Some people become incoherent during subspace, rendering safe words almost useless. Again, the dom(s) needs to be hyper aware of their partner’s needs.
  2. Subspace can cause intense euphoria. While afterplay (the counterpart to foreplay) is always an important part of the sexual experience, it is especially important here. If you’ve ever been high, you know coming down can range anywhere from a mild drag to an absolute plummeting in your mood. Afterplay helps alleviate that mental and emotional dip, and also keeps things balanced between you and your partner(s). Afterplay can include snuggling, smooching, giggling, touching, bathing, and/or chatting.

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